I have always taken responsibility for my choices. Not every decision was correct but I have always known that I would and could live with the consequences.
Over the past 10 years I have realized the benefits of sacrifice, hard work, and overcoming my own set of circumstances. Along the way I found myself wanting to provide others with an opportunity to rise up as well.
Unfortunately the more helpful I tried to be the more resentful some became. Not everyone appreciated my intent and so I became the problem for them.
One person actually told me they couldn’t be around me cause it made them feel bad about themselves.
It’s been hurtful and enlightening at the same time.
My advice on your journey… don’t blame others, but in addition don’t let other people blame you for their circumstances. You are not responsible for anyone but your own self and, for a time, your children. You made your choices and lived with them and others have made theirs.
Watch for blame in the guise of “truth”. The worst ones will cross boundaries by pointing out your faults. This is just an attempt to bring you down to their level. Misery loves company.
Don’t buy it, walk away and stick to your path. I worked past the hurt and was able to forgive them and you know what? Some found their own way and some did not.
The truth of the matter is that each of us are on our own journey. We will not all be at the same place at the same time. When you choose a different path than those around you they don’t always understand why you have “left” them. They will strike out at you from a place of fear.
You cannot force them to move forward with you, they have to do that in their own time, at their own pace. We all learn the lessons when we are ready.
It does get lonely at times and you will question yourself, keep believing and trust in your journey. Full circle ~ you make decisions, and you take responsibility for the success or failure.
Don’t buy into the blame game. We all have the same opportunities, it’s just a matter of being willing to do something about it. ?